Tonight, dear readers, I am saddened at how little marriage means to many people.
I met some very nice new people through a job this afternoon, and overheard the one girl talking about her second husband. By overheard, I mean I was standing in plain view about five feet away while she was talking to someone else in a normal speaking voice.
She talked about how her and her current husband are having problems. They each have two kids, but none together from what I gathered. Each were married before and married young. They met through work and became friends. She was already divorced once, and he was having problems being bored and stressed with his wife. He divorced his wife to married this new girl, the girl who was telling this story.
The tables have turned and with four mouths to feeds, she now works two jobs, as well as plays mommy. Her husband has met this new friend who he talks to every day on the phone and visits often while his wife is at work. Basically, he has become bored with his wife again, and she is afraid he is going to leave her for this new girl, who is more fun, just as she was more fun a few years ago.
What really got me was not the entire messed up situation, but what she said to the other person when talking about her first marriage. I can’t quote it word for word probably, but I’ll do my very best:
“We married young. I knew it would last, you know? I mean, I married at 18. It was like, whatever.”
What the heck. Marriage is not like whatever, no matter when you get married.
Now, I’m not strongly opposed to divorce. I believe you should make the best effort possible to marry the person you want to be with your entire life. However, I also understand that things change and sometimes divorce can be the most peaceful and mind-easing option for all parties involved.
HOWEVER, married is never “whatever.”
If you go into a marriage knowing it will never last in the long run, yes ma’am, you are unbelievable. I mean, number one, why woudl you want to do that? Don’t you want long-term happiness? I honestly do not understand it, so if someone can please explain it to me, by all means, fill my comment box.
Marriage is a commitment you make to another person, and for many, it is a one you make before God. Is divorce a sin? Maybe. I don’t know. It depends how you interpret the Bible. Is willfully marrying someone you never intend to stay faithful to a sin? Yes. I think we can all agree on that one. It gave me the creepy-crawlies to even hear her say that.
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